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Take My Father...Please!

How To Survive
Caring For Aging Parents

by Jacqueline Marcell
Eldercare / Alzheimer's Speaker, Author, Radio Host, Caregiver Advocate

How Do I Handle My Elderly Loved One Who:

Is experiencing increasing levels of memory loss?
Wants all my time and attention?
Is a danger on the road but refuses to give up driving?
Refuses to allow any caregiving help in the home?
Can no longer take proper care of their finances?
Needs to see a psychiatrist but, refuses to go?

Is a danger on the road but refuses to give up driving?

This is a serious problem that cannot be overlooked and is usually one of the most difficult hurdles to overcome. Have a doctor whom your loved one trusts check their eyes, hearing and reflexes. If the doctor feels that your loved one should no longer be driving, confidentially ask for a letter stating that. A copy of this letter should be sent to the Department of Motor Vehicles requesting that the license be revoked. This process may take several weeks.

If the situation is critical, contact the DMV immediately and speak with a supervisor, lining up an appointment. Tell your loved one that someone must have reported them driving erratically and that you have to take them to the DMV for a routine exam right away. If the DMV ends up taking the license away--be sympathetic, saying how sorry you are that this has happened. Assure them that you will arrange for alternate transportation so they don't feel trapped at home. This way, you're not the horrible person who took their last pleasure in life away, and you may have saved some lives. Realize that it is a four times higher accident rate for seniors, and a nine times higher… More on page 286 of Elder Rage.

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